Is it Really Oversimplification of a Word?

I have to comment on the recent turn of events involving “Dog” the bounty Hunter. It seems he was taped during a phone conversation using the
“N” word and now A&E has pulled his show from the lineup of TV programs.
I gotta tell ya this is the latest in slaps that I have to make a commentary on.
I think what he said was a bad thing but in the scheme of everything else on TV it’s so mild in comparison. I am still amazed @ the Don Imus thing, as well.
I am still mystified when a person of color tells me that it’s alright if they use the “N” word or call themselves “””””ho’s but I am a heretical maniac if I do it. I am stunned by this ignorance. It demeans anyone regardless of their race to use those derogatory words in any context or situation. To me it shows the persons lack of education when they say these statements to me. It should never be alright in any case. On the same score, I don’t think anyone should be punished in the manner of Don Imus or Dog the Bounty Hunter. OK, Don Imus said something on the airwaves but as I understand it “Dog” was having a private telephone conversation that was somehow taped or something. That alone is invasion of privacy.
I say a lot of things over the phone that I would never say in public because it’s simply my private line that I pay a monthly fee to have the right to use without invading my space. This should be treated like a violation of HIPPA laws or something. Just today I am on-line entering codes on my Coke-Rewards account collecting points toward different stuff and I came across Ring tones to download. I thought that would be a good use of points to redeem toward...so I happen to come upon a voice ring tone from the Artist listed as “Swing” and the title of the ring tone was “On My Momma”, which I thought would be something cute about Momma’s but what I heard throughout the song (if you can call it that) was the word “nigga” (the “N” word) over and over throughout the voice ring tone.
I was offended (and in big red letters too) What is more serious is that children...children, have access to things just like this. There are no NC-17 warnings that I could read about children’s access to this kind of thing. Not to mention the fact that something as simple as a ring tone could be so offensive and on a Coca-Cola sponsored website (their own website). http://www.mycokerewards.com/. I was also just watching Cartoon Network and there was a preview of a cartoon called the Boon Docks. They were talking about "nigga" moments in kind of a MTV cartoon video. What is that all about. Its an Adult Swim cartoon geared toward adults but you know children are watching this. I stopped to watch the cartoon and the "nigga" word was said throughout the cartoon. I can't make my point more clearly. I am Caucasian and I am deeply offended by these lyrics/words and cannot believe that it is somehow alright for a black person to listen to this much less condone it. Why is the “N” word a term of endearment to a black person? Someone please enlighten me. Why does 200 years of slavery that you are so far removed from (over 100 years) justify the use of this terminology or any other words that inspire a culture of hatred? That is the Simple truth that I don’t believe in any way, I am Oversimplifying...